Aside from the drugs, alcohol, and unprotected sex, it was actually a healthy lifestyle.
Here at Freaking Fitness, we’re all about holistic health.
The idea of holistic health might give you visions of tie-dye, patchouli, and the Grateful Dead; but the definition according to the online dictionary is: “A concept in medical practice upholding that all aspects of people’s needs, psychological, physical and social should be taken into account and seen as a whole.”
This implies that if one part is unhealthy, we truly aren’t a healthy person. We might have a healthy body-fat percentage, eat a perfectly balanced diet rich in nutrients, kick some cross-fit butt, and complete marathons; but if we’re polluting our hearts and minds, are we really making healthy choices?
That takes me to the thought of drama.
There are different kinds of dramas. First, there’s the kind that happens to you and you don’t really have much say in the matter, and then there’s the kind that we choose to participate in.
Choose.
I love that word.
I can blame at least half of my life blunders on that one.
What we choose to participate in can undo all the healthiest of intentions we have for the other parts of our life. That’s especially true for a visit to
Dramaville.
5 Questions Before You Go
Like trying to decide if it’s a good idea to hit the Krispy Kreme drive-thu, a bit of self-searching can often save us from a decision we might soon regret.
1. What’s my gut telling me?
You ever had someone ask you to do something that in your gut you knew you shouldn’t do? You felt uneasy and maybe a bit scared? I tell my daughters to ALWAYS listen to your gut. If your gut says no, there’s probably a good reason.
2. Is the conversation productive FOR ALL INVOLVED?
Some people just like to hear themselves talk. That’s okay, if the conversation is generally beneficial. But beware the life-sucking convo that, as you participate, makes you feel your inner light going out. When your emotions start the downward descent, it’s best to bail. My friend @MizFitOnline wisely made that decision as an online drama unfolded. She couldn’t have predicted the negative behavior of some, and when she knew in her gut it was time, she stopped the about-to-be-downward spiral. From my perspective, it was not only wise for her sake, sanity, and emotions, but it was also a wise and compassionate decision that benefited her community.
3. What’s the ultimate purpose?
Is the conversation to illuminate an injustice, spark change, or just rant? Is it to be part of a crowd? Or is an issue you always have felt strongly about?
4. Will I take the high road under all circumstances?
Trolls. They’re part of online life. They’re not going to go away. Unlike a conversation with a few close friends via a phone call, texts, or even emails, once you put yourself out there it’s online forever. Would you be proud a month, a year, 10 years from now if you read it? Are you fine with your kids reading it, or maybe their friends telling them what you wrote? Imagine the “Dude,what’s your mom (or dad) been smoking?”
5. Am I willing to live with the consequences?
Consequences come in only two flavors. Good and bad. If what you wrote gets turned around and interpreted in a way you didn’t intend, are you willing and ready for what may happen to your life, your brand, your relationships, and ultimately your health?
What do you do before you take on an issue? Do you think about it or do you dive right in?
Please share your wisdom!
