Why All That Dieting Is Getting You Nowhere

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Here at Freaking Fitness diet is a dirty word.

That’s because diet generally means temporarily and drastically changing your eating to get quick results that don’t last once you go back to your old way of eating.

 

If you find yourself always searching for a new magic diet but are frustrated because you never seem to have any lasting success, there might be a few things that are stopping you from finally getting to where you want to be.

You Start a Diet When There’s an Upcoming Event

It’s your 20th high school reunion in two weeks, so you figure you’ll just drop 30 pounds quick so you can fit into your homecoming dress. Even if you do manage to fit into the dress, when the party is over you’ll return to your regular diet and likely gain even more weight back than you lost. If you’ve become a chronic crash dieter, you need to know that there are health risks associated with crash dieting ranging from gallstones to headaches and even hair loss. Studies also show it could weaken your immune system, leading to increased risk of infections.

Food Is Your Bestie

It’s loyal, makes you feel good, never gives you crap about what you’re wearing, and it’s not illegal. Food often becomes a medication for whatever ails you at the moment. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying a piece of chocolate (although maybe not in the creepy way they do in  TV commercials), but when you seek food to make you feel better, it’s time to reexamine that relationship. It’s no coincidence that in those chocolate commercials where they play romantic music while the chocolate is. . .erm. . .consumed, a woman is the consumer. They’re tapping into that emotional connection with food. They even seem to imply that it’s just what you need to feel better.

All Your Friends Are Doing It

“Hey let’s go eat bacon and drink beer” sounds a lot more fun than “let’s get a salad and have some water with lemon.” Food and drink is usually the center of any social gathering. It’s really a part of our human culture. And just like we don’t want someone pressuring us to eat a double stack with cheese and mocking us for our food choices, I’m sure they don’t want us to go off on them about theirs.

When you are heading for a situation where unhealthy food will be available, prepare for it mentally and emotionally. Decide ahead of time what your limits will be. If you say to yourself “I’ll have one beer or skip dessert,” commit to it.

Every time you are successful in following through with your intentions, you’re building a new habit. Soon it will become second nature to make those choices. It’s just a matter of changing a behavior you’ve always done, having never realized that it was one of the reasons you haven’t been able to overcome your struggle.

If you can relate to any of these scenarios, a good first step is a food journal. Write down what you ate, but also write down the location and the circumstances. Were you sad? Were you out with friends? Were you alone? You’ll likely start seeing patterns and habits that maybe you didn’t realize existed.

Are you finding yourself caught up in chronic dieting, always trying to get rid of that same 20 pounds? When you really look inside, what do you feel might be the main reason?

 

 

 

 

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  • http://twitter.com/MizFitOnline carla birnberg

    for me what worked from the START was doing less than I was capable of. less of a workout. less of a foodfocus less less less.  that I can maintain FOREVER and not get burnt out.

    • http://twitter.com/joycecherrier Joyce Cherrier

      I’m so with you on that Carla. It’s why I cringe when I see the miracle diet commercials. They prey on people’s emotions. A pet peeve of mine. *hops off the soapbox* 

  • http://twitter.com/TheBoldBlend Barbara Davis

    I like what Carla said about starting small.  I’m back at that stage again.  I planned for a healthy week first by shopping with good choices in mind.  Since I’m still healing, I didn’t make any big workout plans aside from swimming around in the pool some with the family.  So far so good.  

    • http://twitter.com/joycecherrier Joyce Cherrier

      Hi Barbara ~ agree too. It really is the key to long term success. I think diets are being sold and advertised like get rich quick schemes. More and more I’m noticing TV ads that are run late at night when people are maybe alone and most emotionally vulnerable. 

      But it’s the slow and steady that works. Great start with shopping healthy. It’s decisions like that, that work. A little bit everyday for life. :)  

  • talktherapybiz

    I think examining your relationship with food is a great starting point. Without that thorough assessment about the meaning that food has in your life, you’re just going to binge and crash, as you said.

    I read an article about food addiction and how it’s a substitute for feeling worthy, successful, feeling your actual feelings, etc. The scientific findings included a habitual physical hunger response, that was caused by all the emotional (psychological) eating. Scary that your body can be tricked in this way.

    And of course, there’s no substitute for exercise as a great weight loss tool :) .

     

    • http://twitter.com/joycecherrier Joyce Cherrier

      I totally agree Linda — I think we really don’t talk about how that relationship can be unhealthy – it’s mostly just joked about, but I think there’s a lot of women struggling with it and to them, it’s a very serious thing. Thanks for your always insightful comments! 

  • http://twitter.com/LisaEirene Lisa Eirene

    FANTASTIC post! I’ve been preaching this for years now. So many people think it’s a temporary fix. To be fair, it really is sometimes just a “I need to lose 5 pounds” kind of a thing. But for people like me, who have to lose more than that, it MUST be a lifestyle change. Or it doesn’t work. Period.

    • http://twitter.com/joycecherrier Joyce Cherrier

      Hi Lisa, thank you very much! Yes, beyond a few pounds it’s a lifestyle change. It’s the little successes everyday combined with a support system and knowing you’re worth it. :)  

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Jody-R-Goldenfield/100000069514057 Jody R. Goldenfield

    GREAT post Joyce! You hit the points that get to people! I think that one about caving when everyone else is eating or doing is HUGE! For me, right from the beginning, I knew I could not go back to eating the way I was cause that was what made me fat to begin with… I know this sounds crude but I NEVER GET why people think they can get to a certain weight & then go back to eating everything again – common sense – NOT – that made you heavy to begin with,,,

    SO, back to my first point, ;-) , I get so passionate about this – I started right at the beginning to NOT eat just because everyone else was eating OR because it was dinner out or a gathering or a part or all the other myriad reasons to eat. I brought my own food or did what was right for me.. I still do. Yes, I splurge every now & then but every gathering is not a reason to eat! :-)

    • http://twitter.com/joycecherrier Joyce Cherrier

      Thanks Jody :) I love that you’re such a strong woman. It takes guts to stand your ground no matter what. Your attitude and dedication inspires me to do better.

  • Diane Lopez

    Funny! But this is true. Great post!

  • blogomomma

    Boo hiss…. I hate to journal but as usual, you ARE right.

    I have learned from you easy ways to make permanent painless “healthful” changes and not being psycho in varying scenarios. 

    Great post, as I expected nothing less ;D.

    • http://twitter.com/joycecherrier Joyce Cherrier

      Great to see ya momma! Thanks! Always love your colorful comments! :)  

  • http://twitter.com/paul_steele paul steele

    Good points Joyceeee.. true true true,, damn :)

    • http://twitter.com/joycecherrier Joyce Cherrier

      Hi Pawleee! Oh sorry about that! ;)  

  • Troy Adashun

    Absolutely Positively HATE the fad diet- It is so sad that people fall prey to these pills,powders, and fad diets that are being sold and in most cases actually making people more unhealthy!

    45 Minutes of Plyometrics/aerobics/cardio/resistance training/playing a sport 3-4 times a Week paired with a health diet at least 5 days a week would do wonders for 90 percent of the population! Make working out fun and don’t stress up every calorie you eat! Staying active = staying happy!

    Troy Adashun
    Formulated Fitness
    Troy@formulatedfitness.com

    • http://twitter.com/joycecherrier Joyce Cherrier

      Love that Troy ->>  staying active=staying happy :D

  • http://www.crankyfitness.com/ Crabby Mcslacker

    Great points about dieting.  I’ve never really gone that route because I’d so much rather eat humongous portions of healthy food and exercise a lot than limit myself or set up cravings by having “prohibited” foods.  I’ll eat almost anything, but try to fill myself with veggies and protein and go easy on the crap.

    • http://twitter.com/joycecherrier Joyce Cherrier

      A good strategy Crabby. I need the Slacker Diet E-Book. When’s that available again? :)  

  • Meredith Allison @RockTique

    I love this! Yes yes yes! I’m so tired of trying to find the words to explain to people why diets just don’t work… Well, maybe not ‘tired’ of it but it does get frustrating when you can see in their eyes that they simply don’t want to believe it. Very well said here!

  • http://www.carlsbadvillageortho.com/ CarlsbadVillageOrthodontist

    I don’t eat a lot, but then again my choice of foods aren’t exactly on the healthy side too. These days I’m seriously enforcing better eating habits and a more rigorous exercise routine.

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